If you can’t say something nice – look harder

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“If you can’t say something nice,
don’t say anything at all.”

My Mom used to say this when I was a kid,
and I was again reminded of it the other day
while on the phone with someone who
had very little nice to say.

So what’s a kid to do when faced with this directive?
Better yet, as adults – How should we handle it??

Here’s an idea:

Instead of biting our tongue and muttering under our breath,
let’s use our energy and time toward a more productive result.

Let’s find something nice to say something about.

Now, this is going to take effort, and for some people
who have a complaint about everything and anything -
this is going to take some REAL work !
And… they’re going to complain about it ;)P

But seriously – finding fault is easy.
Those who do it the most are typically
those who find fault within themselves first.
I would suggest to them that the first place they
start to look for something nice to say is in the mirror.

Once they begin to see the good within themselves,
it’s going to be a whole lot easier to see it in others.
Also, if you can forgive a few of your own “faults” and
stop being so hard on yourself – you may find it easier
to relate to and see why others do the things they do.

So this thing my Mom used to say -
what a fantastic challenge to throw down !
I’m not so sure she meant it that way, but if you
really take ahold of it and make it your battle cry -
it’s going to seriously change the way you live.
Why?  Because it forces you to go beyond seeing the
easier things to find and discover the hidden treasures
that you’ve been missing NOT because they weren’t there
but that you’re too busy looking at what’s wrong – not right.

My challenge to you is instead of picking the
“don’t say anything at all” part of this -
step up and speak up !

You will make a positive difference in both your lives.