You are where you are. Where will you go from here?

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I tried explaining to my son the other night
that we are where we are right now in Life,
and that nothing can be done to change
anything in the past that has led us here.

We can share how we feel about what’s
happened in the past – but no amount of
complaining, cursing, or causing challenges
in the present will have any effect on history.

I’m not sure that it sunk in, to be honest.
As much as I’d like to believe it made sense
in the moment, the receptiveness of youth has
the attention span of a puppy in a room of kittens.
Squirrel!!!

And since we’re being honest here, I’ve got to
tell you that most everything I have learned and
studied about human beings in general over
the past 25 years has been mostly useless
when it comes to dealing with my own child.
Seriously!
It has been the single biggest challenge for
me over the past year, putting a “hold” on
and impacting virtually every area of my Life.
Family & friends take 2nd place, because of
the familiarity in place that creates a barrier
between the message and the messenger.
Add that to the natural defensiveness people
tend to have when someone close to them
attempts to point out what they’re doing “wrong”.

But that’s a story for another day – I don’t want
to get sidetracked from the BIGGER PICTURE.

OK.
Humour me for a second.
Take a deep breath and hold it for 7 seconds.
Now let it out  s l o w l y …

There.  Feel better?
Actually, you just helped to stimulate your lymphatic system,
so you just did your body good whether you know it or not :)

Now, take it  back.
Unbreathe the breath you took.

Let me know when you’re done choking ;)

So, you can’t take it back.
Even trying to take it back is essentially
creating a new breathe in the process!

Just like trying to change the past.

The time you spend trying to change
the past merely creates more past -
because every moment in the present
flows into the past as fast as you live it.

You may not like your past.
You may not even like the Life you have.
Fine.
Great news; Poof!!!
It’s gone.

From here on out you will either forge a new path
or continue to follow in the footsteps of your past.

Your situations and circumstances will motivate you
to act or react to them and make choices as to
what you will DO as a result of them.

This is YOU creating your PRESENT.

Your PAST is made up of countless PRESENTs
gone by – made up of choices & actions that
you took in the moment – every moment.

If you want a Present AND a Future that DOES NOT
look like a past that you wish you could change -
change your choices and adjust your actions.
Be proactive to your environment – not reactive.
Stop allowing your circumstances to control, dictate,
and determine the choices you make & steps you take.

You are
where you are.
The Why or How doesn’t have to influence
where you will go from here unless YOU allow it to.

Let the Past be Passed.

Let the future be forged and cast
by your conscious choice and direction.

 

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It is in your hands…